Shadow Dancing

All of us have a shadow self. Those aspects of us that we try to keep in the dark, hoping that no-one will notice her or that she won’t present herself in inappropriate ways or times.  She has been told on more than one occasion that she has overstepped the carefully constructed boundaries of society and that she needs to return to the box! I had felt such shame and guilt around her, that wild, spontaneous, sensual, assertive, take no shit part of my being.  For years I resisted her, banished her, berated her when she dared to show her face, dared to demand attention.  I was the ‘nice’ girl, the ‘yes’ girl, the ‘pleaser’ girl, this dark aspect of me had no place in my life.

How wrong could I be. I decided that I needed to find out more about my shadow, find out why she even existed. Gently and cautiously I established a relationship with her, connecting, conversing, exploring. I came to realize that she wasn’t deplorable, or horrible. When I looked at her with an open heart and mind, I saw reflected my potential, my creativity, my passion. She was as essential to me as breathing and I had stifled and shackled her. No wonder she screamed and raged and stormed at the odd times she was released!

Without my shadow my light cannot be seen. We are an entwined and integrated being. When I invite her to be a loved and nurtured part of myself then her magic can be expressed in ways that manifest miracles.  She is wondrous and I can’t wait for people to meet her – us.   We are two sides of the same coin, together we are gold.

So I invite you to extend the hand of friendship to your shadow self if you haven’t done so already or to embrace her more fully if you have.  Ignore the opinions and expectations of others – they do not know that their own fears, doubts, insecurities are whats causing them to shy from beauty that exits in the shadow. Dance with your dark sister joyously!

8 Responses to Shadow Dancing

  • “we are two sides of the same coin – together we are gold!” Yes we are. I’ve been rolling in the deep exploring my ‘dark side’ + damn is she wild, wise + free!! Absolutely loved this post – thanks for sharing! x

    • natalie says:

      Glad to hear it Susana. Once we find the courage to engage her, wow what a ride. But often it does take a special ‘space’ to be able to connect with her in safety in the beginning. I can thank my delicious Moontree journey for that.

      • Definitely takes a special ‘space’ to connect with her. I met her thanks to a MAJOR meltdown!! It’s amazing what we open up to when you finally stop running from ourselves. Keep up the posts Natalie, they are beautiful xx

        • natalie says:

          Susana, I think at times it takes something that major for us to stop, look and more importantly listen. I went through a similar position when my little boy was about 18 months old. Not fun but oh so necessary! Congratulations on having the courage to go with it and re-love yourself.

  • Kama says:

    Love this post Natalie. It is so true that we must observe every element of ourselves. It is through this observation that we truly connect with our being and embrace who we become. What we ignore grows stronger, including our shadow. You have described it so beautifully. Thank you for sharing xx

    • natalie says:

      Kama it is almost when we turn and face the shadow we see the hints of rainbow within it. You Kama are a beautiful example of not only facing the shadow but harnessing her energy to create magical stuff to inspire others. xx

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