All of us have a shadow self. Those aspects of us that we try to keep in the dark, hoping that no-one will notice her or that she won’t present herself in inappropriate ways or times. She has been told on more than one occasion that she has overstepped the carefully constructed boundaries of society and that she needs to return to the box! I had felt such shame and guilt around her, that wild, spontaneous, sensual, assertive, take no shit part of my being. For years I resisted her, banished her, berated her when she dared to show her face, dared to demand attention. I was the ‘nice’ girl, the ‘yes’ girl, the ‘pleaser’ girl, this dark aspect of me had no place in my life.
How wrong could I be. I decided that I needed to find out more about my shadow, find out why she even existed. Gently and cautiously I established a relationship with her, connecting, conversing, exploring. I came to realize that she wasn’t deplorable, or horrible. When I looked at her with an open heart and mind, I saw reflected my potential, my creativity, my passion. She was as essential to me as breathing and I had stifled and shackled her. No wonder she screamed and raged and stormed at the odd times she was released!
Without my shadow my light cannot be seen. We are an entwined and integrated being. When I invite her to be a loved and nurtured part of myself then her magic can be expressed in ways that manifest miracles. She is wondrous and I can’t wait for people to meet her – us. We are two sides of the same coin, together we are gold.
So I invite you to extend the hand of friendship to your shadow self if you haven’t done so already or to embrace her more fully if you have. Ignore the opinions and expectations of others – they do not know that their own fears, doubts, insecurities are whats causing them to shy from beauty that exits in the shadow. Dance with your dark sister joyously!