To All My Beautiful Daughters
When my daughter was about thirteen she had a very close nit group of friends. They kept this perpetual diary that they took turns writing in and decorating for a week. As you can imagine at that age it was a fabulous support and recording of teen age discovery, worries, dreams. It sustained them for about two years. Just as it was about to wind up I decided to to write something to share with them. I found that piece of writing again recently and it got me wondering what other people would have written to either their own daughters or to their younger self. What advice would you give to a younger woman? Here is what I said…..
To All of My Beautiful Daughter
This gift of wisdom I give to you. If you were to take these words to heart and live by them, your life will know joy, purpose and integrity.
“You create your life, all of it. The good, the great, the bad, the ugly. Sometimes we don’t understand at the time why we have created something, especially when it hurts. Sometimes it is because we have created unconsciously and sometimes Divine wisdom steps in and creates what we need, not necessarily what we want. But know that you are powerful enough to create exactly what you think about.
You do this by the choices you make. You make the choices you do depending on how you feel about yourself and how you see yourself relating to the world. How you treat yourself is how other people and the world will treat you.
So above all else know with every fiber of your being that you are special, unique and of the Goddess essence. Act like a goddess, express like a goddess, expect like a goddess. Everything that comes from you is sacred. Whether it is your time, your energy, your sexuality, your love, your feelings – only give it where it is deserved and to those who will honour and treat it as the gift it is.
Don’t ever let anyone tell you, either by words or actions that you are anything less. Remind each other everyday of your beauty, both in and out. And if you see a friend forgetting what she is worth, gently remind her.
You all have a wonderful bond, a sensational energy as a group. Keep it strong and centred. No boy, or situation should come in between. Take care of yourselves and each other.
As a mother, as a daughter, but mostly as a women, I give you my love and blessings.”
I wasn’t given words like this when I was that age. A lot of shoulds and should nots. A lot of subtle but powerful messages of disempowerment. If this was your experience too, then maybe you could write a letter to your younger self or go into meditation and talk with her.