To believe or not to believe – that is the question?
“We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make our world.” Buddha
Our thoughts about the world arise from our beliefs about the world. We hold many beliefs, some which support us in creating a wonderful life and others that hinder us from doing so. Often we are not even sure where a belief stems from but it carries with it a level of certainty. From a very early age beliefs can and are adopted based on experiences and the influence of family, friends, media, culture, religion etc. The problem is we don’t regularly check in to see if our beliefs about something are still nurturing and supporting us.
For example at the age of four you become lost at the department store. The experience is quite traumatic so you conclude that being alone is a really bad thing and that the world is a scary place. From here you unconsciously begin to look for evidence in your existence to support those beliefs. We are masters at deleting, distorting and filtering information to fit what we believe we know about our world. The more we filter out any contradictory evidence to that belief, the stronger the belief becomes. So the cycle continues. It becomes a self fulfilling prophesy.
However what we chose to believe at four does not serve us at 40. Having the belief that being alone is really bad and that the world is a scary place will influence our behaviour, emotion and choices. Why not choose beliefs that give you strength, joy, empowerment? Why not find evidence to support those beliefs and filter out anything that doesn’t?
Anthony Robbins in his book “Awaken the Giant Within” makes this observation about negative and disempowering beliefs –
The challenge with all these beliefs is that they become limitations for future decisions about who you are and what you’re capable of. We need to remember that most of our beliefs are generalizations about our past, based on our interpretations of painful and pleasurable experiences. The challenge is threefold 1. most of us do not consciously decide what we’re going to believe. 2. often our beliefs are based on misinterpretations of past experiences. 3. once we adopt a belief, we forget it’s merely an interpretation. We begin to treat our beliefs as if they’re realities, as if they are gospel.
Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy.
So what beliefs are you choosing to guide your life? What beliefs support you and empower you to live a life as a Spirited Women? What beliefs will be the foundation for you to live fully? Take in inventory of your most prominent beliefs. Check in – are they yours or ones you have adopted or arrived at through osmosis.
May your beliefs be the foundation on which your life is supported.