How to Move Out of Depression Quickly!
Written by Tracey Carmichael of The Happy Mind Formula
A young man came to me a few weeks ago for coaching. He described himself as feeling depressed and constantly irritable. He was living in fear because he had constant “voices in his head” that were causing him to feel paralysed mentally and physically throughout his day. This young man’s state was leading to problems in his relationship and at work; to the point where he felt it would be best if he walked away from both.
What do think would have happened to this young man if he had presented this problem to his General Practitioner? My guess is he would have been prescribed anti-depressants or he would have been referred to a psychiatrist because of the “voices in his head” and most likely be prescribed anti-psychotic medication.
After I had gathered some history from this young man I quickly identified that he was trapped in his own life. The “voices” were directly related to the fact that he was not living congruently with his beliefs and values.
The changes we made over 2 sessions were to
Exercise – he started exercising for a minimum of 1 hour per day – something he had stopped doing since changing careers
Diet – changed his diet from a diet high in processed carbohydrates and sugars to lean protein, fresh fruit and vegetables nuts and seeds to stabilise blood sugars and therefore stabilise mood swings.
Values – we identified that his top two values were his health and relationship, however he had been operating from a space where he had work and money as his top values. As soon as he switched these around he immediately created time to get back to what he loved which was keeping fit and healthy and spending time with his partner. When he made this change his productivity at work also increased.
Language – in his previous career he had been a professional athlete and he had learned to “shut down” in order to stay focused on winning when he encountered difficult situations or people in his life. This strategy no longer served him in role as an Executive Sales person in a very successful company.
New Strategy – We created a new strategies where he learned how to communicate effectively at work and at home
Limiting Belief – before he could implement the new communication strategies we needed to eliminate his limiting belief “all communication leads to conflict”
Focus – I directed him to change his focus from focusing only on himself to focusing on how he could grow within himself and in his career and how he could contribute more to his relationship and the people he now worked with.
He arrived for his third session and it was amazing to see this vibrant happy man sitting in front of me. His relationship was better than it had ever been, his work colleagues were responding well to his new way of communicating, he was training every day, he had no voices in his head and no longer felt depressed.
Now let me explain why this shift happened so quickly
What controls our lives are the meanings we associate to the things in our lives, which are shaped by our own personal psychology and our world view; the beliefs and values that we’ve created.
As an example, two people may experience the same event, where one person thinks, “I am being punished; I might as well die,” and someone else thinks, “I am being challenged. This is the greatest gift I’ve ever received.” The perceptual difference not only affects the quality of each person’s life, but what action they will take next.
Once a meaning is established, each individual will have a pattern of emotions that they associate to this meaning as their natural way of coping. The variance in meanings and emotions people can generate is virtually unlimited. All meanings are driven by our individual patterns of emotions. These emotions are driven by three forces that mould the meanings we take from those emotions – the three primary patterns of emotion are called the Triad.
The Triad Creates Meaning Through
Patterns of Physiology – how you use your physical body such as breath, posture, movement, exercise etc.
Patterns of Focus – whatever you focus on, you will feel. What you focus on depends on your values, your rules for fulfilling those values and your global beliefs, all of which constitute your identity.
Patterns of Language/Meaning – as soon as we put words to an experience, it changes the meaning we experience. The words we put to an experience have to do with the questions we habitually ask ourselves, the metaphors we habitually use, and the incantations we use on ourselves, such as “I can’t do anything right,” or “I’m very smart.”
Understanding the Triad and how to implement it can perhaps help you to see how a person can quickly change their physiology, their focus and language to create a life that has a whole new meaning in a very short space of time.
My mission is to help more people understand this concept and turn around this global mental health epidemic.
Tracey Carmichael is a Wellness and Mind Set Coach, Author, NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner who has 15 years experience in the wellness industry as a Natural Therapist.
Tracey coaches people out of depression and into life
Her techniques are simple but powerful. She shares the formula she discovered to balance the body and brain chemistry together with powerful techniques to let go of negative emotions and limiting beliefs.