This week we had the first interview in our ‘Body Brilliance’ series on Sacred and Sassy radio. Our guest was Annie O’Moon Browning from My Health Sanctuary talking about natural conception, pre-conception and Epigenetics. While having a pre-discussion about this topic, Annie happened to mention that a 30 something friend of hers is involved in a baby group and out of that group of 15 mothers, she was the only one who had conceived naturally. I don’t know about you but that blows me away. When did falling pregnant get to be so hard! When did we begin to rely so heavily on medical intervention to produce something that we were created as a race to do? Look I know there IVF has been a godsend to many parents who desperately want to have children, and that it really wouldn’t be something you would opt to do if given a choice, but why is it more and more couples are turning to it? Continue reading “Western Culture – best form of contraception” »
I have been having many conversations recently about Education, both with parents and teachers. I know that teachers are doing the best that they can with what they have but I really have to wonder whether the curriculum being dictated is serving the children it is meant to. I absolutely agree that we need literacy and numeracy but what about other subjects that are going to help children and young adults grow into productive, balanced, compassionate, resilient, motivated and happy adults? What about tools that will assist them to function and thrive in an increasingly difficult adult world. We all know that our childhood has a huge impact on how we relate and function as adults so let us give them the knowledge and tools to choose the life they want to live. Continue reading “We can’t possibly teach that – can we?” »
Today I heard on the television that a quarter of Australian kids have never climbed a tree! This made me feel really, really sad. I was a monkey when I was a child. Some of my fondest, quietest, peaceful moments were when I was embraced in the arms of a tree. I would often go there if I was feeling sad or mad. They were my friends and companions. And yes I did fall out of one once and broke my arm but that didn’t deter me and I knew the risks. That was part of the allure.
Climbing, exploring, stretching ourselves, being in nature, quiet time – aren’t they all essential for a child’s wellbeing? My children were always outside when they were little. They played in the dirt, collected ‘treasures’, left gifts for the fairies, hugged the chooks, had mud fights, walked through the bush. And now has young adults they appreciate the gifts of nature and like me, crave time outdoors if it has been too long. How can children connect with the earth and themselves, understand the importance of caring for our environment if they don’t spend time in it?
Yes we have play grounds, they have their place, but they are all artificial, plastic, ‘dead’. There is something magical about playing in an environment where you can share energy even when you may not be conscious of that. Being in nature up lifts you, balances you and energizes you. And for our children who spend so much time indoors or in front of electronics, this is so important.
“Our Children no longer learn how to read the great book of Nature from their own direct experience, or how to interact creatively with the seasonal transformations of the planet. They seldom learn where their water come from or where it goes. We no longer coordinate our human celebration with the great liturgy of the heavens.”
Valerie Andrews, A Passion for this Earth
“As a child, one has that magical capacity to move among the many eras of the earth; to see the land as an animal does; to experience the sky from the perspective of a flower or a bee; to feel the earth quiver and breathe beneath us; to know a hundred different smells of mud and listen unself- consciously to the soughing of the trees.”
Make it a holiday experience. Take the family out and find a tree to climb. Make it a family tree :). Sit in the branches and share what you see. Hug the branches and feel the peace. Have a picnic under its shade and most of all enjoy.
When my daughter was about thirteen she had a very close nit group of friends. They kept this perpetual diary that they took turns writing in and decorating for a week. As you can imagine at that age it was a fabulous support and recording of teen age discovery, worries, dreams. It sustained them for about two years. Just as it was about to wind up I decided to to write something to share with them. I found that piece of writing again recently and it got me wondering what other people would have written to either their own daughters or to their younger self. What advice would you give to a younger woman? Here is what I said…..
To All of My Beautiful Daughter
This gift of wisdom I give to you. If you were to take these words to heart and live by them, your life will know joy, purpose and integrity.
“You create your life, all of it. The good, the great, the bad, the ugly. Sometimes we don’t understand at the time why we have created something, especially when it hurts. Sometimes it is because we have created unconsciously and sometimes Divine wisdom steps in and creates what we need, not necessarily what we want. But know that you are powerful enough to create exactly what you think about.
You do this by the choices you make. You make the choices you do depending on how you feel about yourself and how you see yourself relating to the world. How you treat yourself is how other people and the world will treat you.
So above all else know with every fiber of your being that you are special, unique and of the Goddess essence. Act like a goddess, express like a goddess, expect like a goddess. Everything that comes from you is sacred. Whether it is your time, your energy, your sexuality, your love, your feelings – only give it where it is deserved and to those who will honour and treat it as the gift it is.
Don’t ever let anyone tell you, either by words or actions that you are anything less. Remind each other everyday of your beauty, both in and out. And if you see a friend forgetting what she is worth, gently remind her.
You all have a wonderful bond, a sensational energy as a group. Keep it strong and centred. No boy, or situation should come in between. Take care of yourselves and each other.
As a mother, as a daughter, but mostly as a women, I give you my love and blessings.”
I wasn’t given words like this when I was that age. A lot of shoulds and should nots. A lot of subtle but powerful messages of disempowerment. If this was your experience too, then maybe you could write a letter to your younger self or go into meditation and talk with her.
If your son is anything like my almost 17 year old, generally the most communication you get from them is a grunt or some mumbled response that you need a braille machine to decipher. Being an avid communicator I find this some what frustrating and a challenge to keep our connection strong and meaningful. Since I cannot talk with any indepth knowledge of the right body boarding conditions or what motor bike is the best, finding complimentary topics that interest us both and that don’t revolve around the mundane, has me wracking my brain for inspiration.
Well I have discovered a new secret weapon. Driving! My son is clocking up his 100 hours which equates to plenty of one on one time in the car. In his book ‘Raising Boys’ Steve Biddulph suggests that if you want to have meaningful conversations with boys then don’t sit them down in front of you and try and make eye contact and conversation. Too threatening. You are better off engaging in an activity where you can ‘work’ or ‘play’ side by side. They will be much more open to talking in this scenario. And of course learning to drive is the perfect example of this.
While we have been negotiating the road rules and traffic we have talked about everything from girlfriends, his guy friends, school, dreams, religion, expectations, perfection, growing up, drugs and alcohol and of course body boards and motor bikes. It is not every time we get in the car but the topics seem to emerge organically. So as much as it can be a pain clocking up and keeping tabs on the hours, I am treasuring the time we are sharing. I finally feel as though our bond has strengthened again and I know him a little better.
Soon the 100 hours will be up and he will be driving by his-self and in fact I will probably see less and less of him as he ventures out into the adult world. I hope that in retrospect he will value the time we spent driving in cars and will know he can come to me if ever he needs. It looks like I may have to take up body boarding so we can have some ‘ocean conversations’ too.
Natalie Hennessey is creatrix of Spirited Women’s Network, an online directory and calendar of transformation workshops and events and Ruby Moon Dreaming, a one-on-one sistering business to assist women in rediscovering their sacred and sassy selves.