I have always enjoyed motor bikes, well sitting on the back of them anyway. I travelled across Australia on one, I recently did the Mae Hong Son loop in Thailand on one and my husband and I often go for Sunday rides. I know it’s not for everyone but I go into a ‘space’ on the back of a bike and enjoy the proximity of it – to my husband, the road and the environs. Well one day I just happened to mention to said husband, “I wonder what it would be like to actually ride the bike on my own”. Before you know it he had purchased a cheap (so if I damaged it, it wouldn’t matter) bike and I was off to the Big Pineapple car park for lessons with him. I can tell you it has been quite a journey and although I haven’t got my license yet, I am learning quite a lot about myself. The top 5 things I have learned while learning to ride a motor bike. Continue reading “The Zen of Motorbike Lessons” »
I’m a thinker, in fact I over-think and over-process often. I am prone to headaches and lying awake at night. My mind and I have a love hate relationship. It likes to make lists and sort through stuff and I have to engage in my ‘calming’ practices to get it to chill out. I think it is an Aries trait also. I am also a ‘doer’. I get things done. I am productive and constructive and busy – often. I don’t think busy is such a great thing for me either. So when thinking about 2014 – how it was and 2015 -how I wish to be a, word came to mind. One that could assist me to slow down and above all else enjoy. It would help me to let go of my mind madness and busy bee energy. My 2015 word ….. Savouring! Continue reading “No 2015 resolution but a 2015 Word….” »
There is a lot of ‘talk’ around finding your purpose. It is suggested that everyone has a life’s purpose a reason for being here, a special gift or job to do. And although this may be true, seeking and searching for and often not finding or discovering this individualized and unique purpose can be challenging and worse, stressful. There is a certain implication that if we don’t find and live our purpose that we are somehow incomplete, or not fulfilling a destiny. I do believe we have innate gifts and talents, which when we know what they are and begin to share them, can create immense joy and satisfaction in our lives – but striving to find ‘our purpose’ can sometimes hold us back, create barriers, expectations and idealism that do not serve us. What if we just let it go and instead…
We just focus on living a life of purpose or living a purpose-filled life….. Continue reading “Life’s Purpose – Let It Go” »
Regrets – we all have them. We carry them around like little pieces of coal that do a slow burn in our hearts and minds. They are laced with a subtle poison that eats away at our sense of wholeness and dreams for the future, because until we can let them go, if we ever, they anchor us in the past. Having regrets ensure that our personal power will never be at full throttle because they drain our energy like fuel from a leaky line. And they are persistent little buggers, holding on with hook like tendencies, catching us off guard and reminding us of our imperfections. Forgiving and forgetting can be a challenging process so I am sharing some ways to re-define regrets. We can take the negative energy usually associated with rambunctious regrets and turn it into something that will support you to be free. Continue reading “Re-defining Regrets” »
“People only see what they are prepared to see.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
Because we are all unique, because we all have different beliefs, values, life experiences and thoughts, no two people view life the same. In coaching terms we call this your ‘map of the world’. No one’s map is right or wrong, it is a matter of perception.
Two people can participate in the exact same experience but come away with completely different interpretations of that event. What determines the quality of life is the meaning we give the events that happen and the choices we make as a result of those meanings. It is not events in your life that shape you. It is the meaning you give those events.
There are countless stories of people who have lived through horrendous situations but who chose to use this event for a higher purpose, growth, for the greater good. They could have allowed this event to destroy them but they embraced it and rose higher.
We choose what thoughts, emotions and behaviours we will assign to an event. So often we carry around for years the pain, guilt, resentment or anger about an incident in our past. It affects the quality of our lives and relationships. What would happen if we chose to review that incident and give it a different interpretation? What if you were to give it new meaning and free yourself from those harmful emotions? Think of an event in your life that triggers a negative reaction and ask yourself these questions –
- What meaning did I decide to give this event?
- If you were to look at it differently, what would it look like?
- What meaning could I give this event?
It’s important to remember also that other people are making choices about their emotions, thoughts and behaviours based on their map of the world. This does not condone harmful behaviour, but it does give us another perspective on why some people do what they do.
How you feel about your life is entirely up to you. You have the power to change how you relate to the world and how you experience it. This does not diminish your experience, but allows you the freedom to live it, learn from it and move on. I have seen many times while coaching clients the ‘light coming on’ and the relief when they assign another meaning or different meaning to an event and they are released.
Move the meaning and you move!