At a recent get-together one of topics of conversation was about how many people feel a level of stress around the Christmas period. Whether it is caused by trying to get everything done, having to spend time with relatives, financial woes or just the expectations associated with this time of year, there was definitely a ‘tenseness’ in the air in discussing this. I don’t have this experience so it was interesting for me to observe the ‘play’. Here Donna from Live It Up Coaching offers a new perspective to approaching the ‘drama’.
IS DRAMA YOUR DRUG OF CHOICE?
It is reasonably easy to identify someone with a Drug or Alcohol addiction by their behaviour or their own admitting to this problem. These are clinically diagnosed addictions and we all have some knowledge of the how and why of these terrible situations.
A far lesser recognised addiction is the addiction to DRAMA.
This is an addiction that can be just as destructive and damaging in your life, yet you may not even recognise that you suffer from it. There are several symptoms but we will discuss just a few here.
If you find yourself suffering from any of the following you may well be addicted to drama.
- An unhealthy interest in gossip about other people.
- A tendency to tell long and rambling stories of misfortune or misery.
- A consistent feeling of being a victim in your life.
- A habit of looking for the worst in a situation.
Someone who is addicted to drama will constantly use phrases like “I can’t believe they did that to me” or “Did you hear about what ……said about me” or “nobody ever cares what I think about ……”. If you are cringing just a little bit because on occasion you use this language it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re addicted to drama. If you recognise you use this language a lot you may have a problem or if you think “I never talk like that” then you may well be in denial and absolutely addicted to drama.
This addiction means that you will constantly be embroiled in problems or difficult situations in your life and as one ends another surely begins. Just as a drug addict or alcoholic started their addictions with one drink or one drug experience the Drama Addict similarly starts small. These people will often be really involved in gossip and what is happening to other people and will usually have very strong opinions that they refuse to change, even when strong evidence to the contrary is presented. The Drama Queen (or King) usually has a very healthy dose of “Self Righteousness” to go along with their addiction.
Coming into Christmas this is a time that is ripe for Drama Addictions as we bring all manners of family and friends together which normally wouldn’t socialise or hang out together, and it is also a time where being the centre of attention can be a hotly contested position. This position is one the Drama Addict needs to talk about their gossip or problems so they can feed their addiction.
Have a really close and honest look at what you talk about in your life and if it is often negativity or gossip than this could be a real issue for you.
The GREAT NEWS is there’s a very simply cure for the Drama Addiction. You just need to concentrate on the amazing things in your life that you appreciate and are grateful for and go on a strict diet of only thinking and talking about these situations. If you are struggling to think of great things start with “I am breathing” and work your way up from there. If someone around you is constantly caught in drama, all you do is change the topic and continue to do so until the conversation is happy and enjoyable. If this doesn’t work then walk away.
There will be difficult times in life and of course we will discuss these with those close to us, BUT if you are ALWAYS doing this then you are addicted.
Drama sucks the life out of you and will leave you a miserable and fairly lonely human being if you let your addiction take control.
This Christmas make it a resolution to not get into any drama and to live your life setting an example of happiness and laughter to all of those around you.
Have a great Christmas and a joyful New Year
Donna Meredith & Shaun O’Gorman
Authors bio: Donna Meredith & Shaun O’Gorman created Live It Up Coaching to give motivated clients the tools and strategies to change and improve their lives. Their own individual drive and passion for personal development started them on this journey and because of the amazing results they both achieved LIVE IT UP COACHING was born. Their passion is to share their work and inspire their clients to live a rich and fulfilling life – loving every moment and achieving astounding results with no regrets.
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